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We Were Never Meant To Fight Alone

Life is a constant battlefield that continually tries to make us slip up.  Everywhere we turn, there is a new battle to be fought with an enemy that tries every single day to take us out.  Do you recognize this?  Do you see the battle that is before us?  It’s very real.  Don’t believe me?  Just look at all the pain, suffering, and sorrow that is going on this world.  Look at your life.  I can guarantee you that every single one of us has had to deal with struggles of all types.  Some seem so small, while we more readily recognize the major things that come along.  Either way, we are in constant battle.  There’s no use denying it.  It’s real.  God reveals it in His Word through his 66 book love letter that shows everything God does to restore the hearts of man to Himself.

In Waking the Dead, John Eldredge shared that, “Any movement toward freedom and life, any movement toward God or others, will be opposed. Marriage, friendship, beauty, rest—the thief wants it all.”  From A.W. Tozer, Eldredge added, “So, it becomes the devil’s business to keep the Christian’s spirit imprisoned. He knows that the believing and justified Christian has been raised up out of the grave of his sins and trespasses. From that point on, Satan works that much harder to keep us bound and gagged, actually imprisoned in our own grave clothes. He knows that if we continue in this kind of bondage. . . we are not much better off than when we were spiritually dead.”

This war and daily battle is real and the closer you draw to God in your faith, the harder the enemy will push at you to try to take you out.  William Gurnall added that, “It is the image of God reflected in you that so enrages hell; it is this at which the demons hurl their mightiest weapons.”

With this battle that is going on, even when I recognized it, I used to try to deal with it alone.  Living life as a lone ranger, I never shared my struggles with people, except maybe my wife.  But even with the ability to share with her, that wasn’t enough.  I found that I needed more.  I needed to build real, solid, Christ-filled connections with others that also recognized this battle and with whom I could do life and reach out too for prayer and added weaponry in the arsenal of God.  We are not meant to fight through our battles alone.  Yes there are things that require complete solitude and one-on-one connection and intimacy with God.  God made us for intimacy and closeness with Him, not to just wander the world aimlessly.  We also need others to do life with.  For men, we need other men that we can connect with and live out the masculine journey of our lives with.  Women need the same connection with other women for the feminine journey.  I’m so grateful that God opened my heart to this reality.

This year, God has allowed me to make so real connections with other men.  Not just surface level friendships, but real, Christ driven connections.  You want to talk about a game changer.  I’ve written about the awesome guys I connected with at Wild At Heart.  That was just the beginning.  Getting to continue those friendships, is something I look forward to.  Now with that, I can already see the enemy trying to infiltrate and pull us away.  It becomes easier and easier with time to go back to what you were used to and if we are not careful, the enemy will set up shop in those agreements that we just have too much going on, or we’re busy this month, how about next month.  This includes me.  I’ve been guilty here too.

I had lunch today with a gentleman that ran across this blog through Ransomed Heart ministries Allies Network.  It was great to make this connection and prayerfully we’ll get to hang again and be able to do life walking in this ministry and message that we both believe in.  That being said, it was a huge reminder for of just how important it is to keep those connections.  We need those friendships.  Proverbs 4:23, God tells us to guard our hearts above all else.  This will determine the course of our life.  Having those friendships and real masculine connections enables me to better guard my masculine heart and keep the enemy from taking me out.  I can’t do it all alone.

Don’t deny the battle that we face.  It is very real and if we are not careful, the enemy is there to take us out in an instant.  Don’t try to go through the battlefield alone, either.  Recognize that we are made for intimacy with God and with each other.  We need people in our lives to walk in the faith.  I liken it to games like Call of Duty where you can earn your way to be stronger and withstand more.  Connecting with and doing life with people gives you added strength to the armor that God has given us, should we accept it.  I’m not saying just make friends with everyone because then the armor can get weaker the more you stretch it out.  You have to keep it tight.  Even Jesus had His 12 boys and then His inner circle from there of Peter, John and James who got to witness the transfiguration.

You need that round table of men, or women for you ladies.  I may be a broken record in this, but I cannot not talk about it over and over, because I feel it is such a central part of our faith and being able to stand strong and resist the devil.  It can’t all be done alone.

God’s Using The Round Table

I continue to get astounded by God’s lead and the way I continue to see Him working my life.  I had worried about falling back to “life as usual” in the months following Wild At Heart, where God pierced my heart to heal me and bring me to life like I’d never known.  With each passing day I seem to learn something new.  Something that just magnifies the glory of God in my life and the life and freedom that is now my through Jesus Christ.  One of these ways has been my Round Table.

When I was alone with God in Colorado, one of the things he put on my heart is the identity of King Arthur and the knights of the round table.  It was rather amazing to feel that on my heart.  In the weeks, prior, I was in our men’s Bible Study and it first hit me there.  I was a lone ranger.  I did life alone or with just my wife.  Didn’t lean to other men for counsel and to really do life with.  I wrote about this in late February in my post “The Round Table.”  Since then, God has shown it to be of great significance to my life as it should be for all of us.

I believe the circles we keep are very vital to our own growth with God.  Having people in our lives that we can trust to be honest with us, not just blow smoke with what we want to hear, and will be there to support and love you through your circumstances.  I think this is huge.  I’m finding those people each day.  Guys I go to worship with, my pastor(s), the guys from Colorado that I now connect with regularly.  Huge part of life and so thankful God has placed these guys here as a part of my round table.

It’s ironic we started a series at church on circles in our life, starting with God and then spreading outward to our family/marriage, friends, etc.  I believe these circles are vital and I believe this is part of the reason God put the round table on my heart, to show me this shortfall and trust that He was placing men in my life I could now trust and turn to.

Here is another example of how vital the round table has been.  In the last couple of months, I made the decision to return to school as I feel that God is calling me into christian counseling and even ministry.  Not sure of what would be the right program, I just chose one to get in the door.  Since then, my pastor/friend/mentor Tim, connected me with a good friend, who is also a christian counselor who sat with me to talk with me about this road and advise me on it.  HUGE!  He helped me to hone in on where I should go, based on my desires and how God is leading.  So now, I am pursuing a Masters in Professional Counseling with the goal of becoming a Licensed Professional Counselor over the next few years.  This will open up great opportunities for reaching peoples and counseling them from the Biblical perspective of trust and in the 4 Streams of Walking with God, Receiving God’s Counsel, Deep Restoration and Healing, and Spiritual Warfare.  I am truly excited about what God is doing and how he has used the round table to counsel me and steer me.

You see, 5 years ago, I started working on a Doctorate in Business.  With no real direction here, I just did it.  People would cheer me on through it, but in reality, I was doing it for wrong reasons after I lost my Dad in an effort to gain focus in my life again, but never received real solid counsel on this.  I didn’t have round table.  There have been other things I done in life in the same manner.  Just doing, but not seeking advice on anything from people or from God.

Again, I look at Scripture in this category too.  All throughout, we see people who have their circles to go through life with.  Most notably, look at Jesus.  He had his inner circle, those closes to Him, His 12, and then other disciples further out from the circle who were sent out.  These people were a significant part of Jesus.  Jesus taught them along the way through His earthly ministry to prepare them for the mission of spreading the Good News to the world after His death to defeat sin, His resurrection to defeat death and give new life, and ascension to the throne with all authority over heaven and earth now His.  His circles very significant, which leads me to believe it’s significant for us as well to as we are now alive in Christ.

I share all this because I believe my testimony here and in other circumstances are significant for all our lives.  God puts the round table in our lives because we are not meant to go through life as lone rangers.  I know there are many of you out there.  When you trust God and put that aside, the way He works in this is so amazing.  You’ll never figure it all out, known of us will, but when you let go and trust Him, He can use you in so many ways for His glory and the freedom we can gain from loving God enough to choose Him first is amazing.  We need people to guide us in this and there are people that need each of us too.  Trust in it and let God use your round table.   I have found, that when you go through life with others, we’ll be amazed at just how closely related we are in our brokenness and sin in the fact that we’re all jacked in someway but can walk through it all together to allow the healing of Christ to enter each of us.  We don’t have to do any of it alone.

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”   C.S. Lewis

The Round Table

I’ve learned a great deal about God through my own study and daily time in Scripture and writing in my journal.  One vital thing I did not know, or rather did not listen about until recently was that I cannot walk through my faith and life as a lone ranger.  For so many years, I did.  Because of my own wounds and insecurities, I never let anyone in, other than my wife.  I have friends and know many people, but I did not ever have anyone that I walk through my faith journey with.  Men I could do life with that would help hold me accountable and allow me to the same in our faith.

At my church, my pastor often talked about doing life in circles and not in rows.  It took a long time for me to realize this shortfall.  I wrote a few weeks ago, before the Wild At Heart Boot Camp, that this hit me hard while in our men’s ministry Bible study and I threw my hand up when we were asked if we did not have guys to walk through life with.  It was almost subconsciousness.  It was like God grabbed my hand and through it up.  He knew where I was flying to the next week and was stirring my heart to prepare me.  It was not like me, or was not like the false me, to just volunteer that.

So since then God has done a work in my heart and I’ve come to really recognize that I was doing life as a lone ranger and I needed to change this.  I needed to let others into my life. In the 5 weeks since that day, God has done a real work in me on this.  He has brought men into my life in both my church and through my connections at Wild At Heart through my band of brothers.  It has been quite a journey.  I have stayed in touch with these guys and we’re committing to continue getting together now that we’re back home.  We just had our first get together last week since being home and it was great. It is so awesome to have a group of authentic men to now do life with. Guys that don’t hide around each other and genuinely want to stay connected and be real about our lives.  Look forward to more of those.  In my church, I’m connecting with guys that are really helping my faith journey there as well and guiding me through the next stages of my life that are going to bring significant and exciting change for my family and me and in how I can serve God and extend his love to others.

This is so vital.  We need people in our lives to do life with and walk through our faith with.  None of us, I don’t care who you are, have it all figured out.  We need those knights at our round table like King Arthur to guide us along.  God called this out, specifically, to me in Colorado when I was communing with Him.  That I was being called to so much more, but needed those knights at my round table.

Who do you have to walk with in life and in faith?  I know I’m not the only lone ranger out there.  The book Waking the Dead asks the question, how can we offer counseling and gain the counseling we need “unless we actually know one other and know one another’s stories.”   You need to know people truly.  Not just know them on the surface.  King Arthur had his round table of trusted knights and knew each one of them and trusted them.  Jesus had his 12 disciples that he trusted and he knew the hearts of each man.

God puts people in our life to guide us along in life.  People that we can trust and God will use them to Father us along in life.  It must be small.  It’s hard to get intimately close and truly get to know folks in large groups.  Have a small band of people in your circles to really go through life with.  That round table, that small platoon.  As was added in Waking the Dead, “Jesus modeled this for a reason.”  It’s how you can grow fully in faith and with God.  You can gain strength from one another and help each other through the spiritual warfare that we each face.

I know this is a new realm to my faith journey, and there’s so much I will learn hear.  As I walk in this path and gain more from the Father, I will share more.  Just know that you do not have to walk through life alone.