Being the real deal…Being Authentic. What do those words say to you?
While you ponder that, I would like to take you on a journey to look down deep inside yourself. There is something that every single one of us has had as a part of our sin nature. That is our fig-leaf. We have all been posers in some way. I don’t care who you are. It’s been an inherent part of our nature since the fall of man. Genesis 3, what do Adam and Eve do after their sin and they now realize they’re naked. They sew fig leaves together to cover them selves. They hide. Ever since then, this has been such a huge and inherent part of us has humans. We are posers!
God’s revealed so much of this to me in my life over these past years and especially the past few weeks. Through Wild at Heart, I was able to allow God into my heart deeper to further expose the poser inside of me. The false-self. The Ransomed Heart guys shared the analogy of an iceberg. 10% of the iceberg is above water, while the other 90% hides below. This correlates to our motives and behaviors. Our behaviors are the 10% on the surface, while the motives are all hidden. I wrote last week about motives and what drives them. We have to examine those to really get at the heart of how we act and how we portray our lives. Do we portray a false front or are we authentic?
There’s many ways that we pose or put on the false front to hide. For me, God pointed right to my reserved passivity. For many years I have hid behind my quietness and not willing to take a stand and be a voice. I would speak-up off from time to time, but often would stay back. I hid behind that as a strength. Of being to be observant and only speak when needed. Someone once told me I was tough to read. Never really let that sink in until this time when I really looked at my heart. That really told me that I was hiding. I was putting on a false front and not living authentic as a man. I was always the nice guy that just got along. Easy to capitulate and not put up a fight. God had another way for me though and he has been working on my heart to show me all of this.
People hide in a number of other ways too. Either way you cut it, the surface behaviors you present to the world are driven by motives that are hidden. We have to be able to get to the heart of those motives and know what they are before we can address them and really begin to grow and shed that fig leaf. One thing they shared with us is that deconstructing the poser in us is huge in realizing our brokenness and where we need restoration. When we shed that poser a cool thing happens. We lose our ability to bullshit our way through life anymore.
As for me, I want to be the real deal. To be the authentic man. God wants all of us to be the real deal. To shed our false-self. To put off the old man, our sinful nature and come alive. To be authentic. It can be a very difficult journey to do so. To really get at the heart of your brokenness and seek God for the restoration that you need. I recommend you get away from your regular life for a day or two. Escape into solitude and just commune with God. Go in the wilderness or somewhere and let him get at your heart.
“Christ has truly set us free” (Galatians 5:1). Because of this freedom we have in Christ, we can shed the poser. We can put off our old sinful nature and come alive in Christ. Ephesians 1:4, “Even before he made the wold, God loved us and chose us Christ to be hold and without fault in his eyes.” God made us and knew us before creation. He made our hearts to be real and to authentic and to be good. Jesus is the picture of full authentic masculinity. He is what each us could have been if we always put God first through everything in our lives. And I mean everything. “Let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God – truly righteous and holy” (Ephesians :23-24).
My call to everyone today is to let go. Let go of the poser and the fig leaf that we all hold on too. Search for your authentic self. Let Jesus into your heart and he will restore you through all of your brokenness. Trust me, he will restore you. I would pray that if you have not taken a look down this path, that you try to. Have faith the journey and where they Lord takes you. Let him lead you. For men, I would highly recommend you pick up the book, Wild at Heart by John Eldredge as a starting point. For Women, I would highly recommend you pick up Captivating written by John and his wife Stasi. My wife read this book and loved it. Transformed her life. Great starting points to really get down into your heart to restore it and come alive shedding the fig leaf we all hide behind.
This is not an easy journey or a quick journey by any means. It’s been a long 1 1/2 year journey for me and now that God has really take hold of heart since the Wild at Heart Boot Camp, he has me on fast forward. It’s a journey of restoration that Jesus has for each of us. He came to save us from our sins yes, but he also came to restore our hearts. To be made new and to be the people God intended us and created us to be all along. I challenge you to take this journey if you have not. Come alive and become the real deal.