Here is something that strikes at the heart of everyone in this world. The idea of intimacy and relationship. What does this mean to you? We think of love, we think of our spouses, we thing of family and friends. Relationship is to be had all over our lives. It took me 36 years to really learn this lesson. To know that I was created for relationship. Not just with my wife and kids, but with others and most particularly with God. This is where I really want to focus today. That relationship and intimacy that is to be had with God throughout our lives.
Did you know that we were created for relationship? God did not create us to rule over us like a cosmic sheriff. No…He created us for relationship with Himself. Not at a distance either, but close and personal. The Bible is full of examples of this relationship going all the way back to Adam and Eve, Noah, Abraham, David, Daniel, Isaiah, etc. It goes on and on. Each of these people and many more, communicated with God personally. It’s what we’re still made for today. God desires to walk with each one of us personally.
The problem today is that we are so busy and the church has been watered down with so much religious non-sense that we have lost touch with what it truly means to walk with God in an real and intimate relationship. Sure we may read our Bibles out of a sense of duty, but do you realize there is more? God speaks to us not just through His Word, but through the Holy Spirit who dwells within us when we choose to walk with Him and follow Christ.
I used to have a hard time with this concept. Can you really hear God speaking to you? I think yes. Do you think He just stopped with the Bible? Of course not. God desires to walk with us. Why do you think He risked it all to leave His thrown and walk among through the person of Jesus Christ? He desires us to be restored who we were meant to be all along. In this life, we will never be fully who we were meant to be and we will never walk in the fullness of the intimacy God desires. But we can began to seek that out when we are in Christ, learning to walk with Him daily and be sanctified daily.
It’s daily struggle for us in this life. There are so many things competing for our attention and affection. It’s so easy to choose to not walk with God daily and to do other things that may call your attention or just to say your too busy to just stop. I struggle with this daily. I strive every morning to get up before the family and sit in my living room chair in prayer, in the Word, and writing in my journal. This quite time is when I truly focus on Him and conversing with Him and the chaos of the day has not began just yet.
There are days, however, and this morning was one, where I just struggle with getting my mind re-focused and just opening my heart to Him. Like I said, things are always competing for our attention. I was listening to a conversation series from Ransomed Heart this morning on conversational intimacy with God. I’ve heard it a few times before, but something John Eldredge said stuck out to me today. That was “Relationship requires things of me that are harder than a life of comfortable distance” (marriage, friendships, etc)…”there are things required of me in relationship“…(When we turn to walk in intimate relationship with God something in us) “recognizes that more is going to be required of us than we ever imagined.”
Walk with God in real intimacy and relationship requires much more of us and often times more than we may have been prepared to give. It requires our attention and focus. It requires to be open to whatever God may want to reveal to you, whether through His Word, through your heart, or through others around you. It also requires you being willing to accept when God says no. Walk with God is a two-way relationship. We have to be able to speak and converse and we have to be willing to hear Him as well.
The point is this. Relationship requires work. God seeks relationship with each of us as He created us for that. Relationship with God requires work. It will push us. It’s not about mastering religious principles and precepts. It’s about intimacy. John Eldredge shares in Waking the Dead, “Truth be told, you couldn’t master enough principles to see you safely through this Story. There are too many surprises, ambiguities, exceptions to the rule.” When talking about having a critical spirit of others, my pastor shared something Sunday that is critical in conquering a critical spirit and in every part of life…”Talk to God first.” That’s where it all begins. Talking with God. It doesn’t come overnight. I will continue working at this for the rest of my life. The more you do this however, the more clearer you learn to walk with Him and hear Him.

“The human heart is made for an epic story…” What do you think this epic story is? For each one of us it is different. God has placed a story in our own lives that all fit into His larger epic story. That is the real story we live in. In The Sacred Romance, John Eldredge and Brent Curtis wrote, “We call the final week of our Savior’s life his Passion Week. Look at the depth of his desire, the fire in his soul. Consumed with passion, he clears the temple of the charlatans who have turned his Father’s house into a swap meet (Matt. 21:12).” Jesus lived from desire. Desire to seek out and do the Father’s will for his life. That’s the desire placed in each of us and it takes us on different paths and in different directions.
As Eldredge said, however, “When we give up looking for that story, we give up living.” In his book Desire, Eldredge also writes, “There is a secret set within each of our hearts. It is the desire for life as it was meant to be.” For many people, the concept of desire seems dangerous and selfish. They associate it with many of the false desires that are placed in our heart through our false self and our sin nature. That’s not the desire and story I am talking about.
Dr. Larry Crabb writes in his book, ‘The Marriage Builder,’ “I am unalterably opposed to any line of thinking that undermines the concept of personal responsibility, and I find myself in general agreement with those who insist people are accountable for choosing godly responses to life’s situations.” It’s amazing how true I have found this to become. Many people are stuck in the the feeling of ‘woe is me’ and do not try to discover ways to deal with the their sins and wounds in a responsible and godly way.
I remember being out at Wild at Heart and I was in deep prayer just dealing with my wounds and sins. I had a couple of guys join me to pray over me and the one thing that really stuck to me, going beyond just allowing Jesus into my wounds was the prayer and encouragement to forgive myself for allowing those things to hold me captive for so long. I had to also take ownership of the decisions I made that were done in a way that ran from God rather than going to where He wanted me to go. The Lord was calling for a reinterpretation of everything to understand that this was not just on others, it was on me as well. Actually most of it was, because, although I did not know better, I did not choose to respond in a godly way before.

Any chance I get to gain something new in my walk with God, I will take advantage of. Something that I have learned to be so valuable also is that we all, men and women, need opportunities to escape the stresses of life. Unplugged from life. I believe this is important, not just with event like this, but to find time to get away , at least once a year. No phones, no work, no distractions. Your soul needs this. As I have shared time and again, why do you think Jesus always escaped to the wilderness. He knew he needed to get away from the chaos in order to walk more intimately with the Father.

I ponder this freedom quite often. I have a sticker on the back of my truck with Galatians 5:1 referenced. It is a constant reminder that I see in my mirror as I’m driving. What does this freedom really mean to us? God intended us to be live in freedom from the very beginning, but we still face a problem where many Christians still find themselves living in bondage and not experiencing the freedom to truly live as they were meant to live. As John Eldredge shared in Free to Live: The Utter Relief of Holiness, “The way of holiness was never meant to be a labyrinth of complexity and eventual despair.” 
Then I pick up the book one day, out of nowhere. I begin to read it. Taking my time, began to absorb it. The lights began to come on. I was pulled into more readings which intrigued me more. There was real movement happening. Then I fly to Colorado for the Wild at Heart Boot Camp. There, life is never the same again. I surrendered my life to Christ out there and came home a completely different man. I was the man I was supposed to be. Who God had made me to be. My whole life changes direction as I was now on fire for the Kingdom. My family begins to respond and see tremendous growth. We begin to forge real Christ centered relationships. I am Baptized last summer and then 5 months later I Baptize my wife and our 3 kids. The ripple effect of that one colleague thinking enough of me to hand me a book, 4 years later has made a tremendous impact.